Oh hey Happy Valentine's Day! At 36 (well almost) year old, this is the first February 14th that I'm actually celebrating with someone I love. I've always been indifferent to it, took the opportunity to spend it with the folks I loved in general like my friends and family. Some years I spent on my own, with a good bottle of wine, a bubble bath and some candles. Last year I hosted a wonderful Valentine's Day Women's dinner for the amazing friends in my life and it was a great evening. I remember feeling truly grateful to have such strong and fierce girlfriends who I love so freaking much.
This year, I get to celebrate it with my husband of 3 weeks. It feels good. I hope you're spending it with someone you love, whether it be your partner, your parents, your children, your best friends or an alone to focus on yourself. In all honesty, every day should be Valentine's Day but we're all so busy trying to make life work that sometimes we forget just how loved we are and how much we love. So I hope today's your opportunity to remember that.
Yesterday, we got our wedding pictures from Wendy Laurel and I spent a billion hours looking at them over and over. Wendy did a great job of capturing the intimacy of the occasion. Our vows, the rings, just smiling and enjoying our private time together. Robert and I chose to elope in Maui because planning a wedding seemed overwhelming but also because we knew that all members of our families wouldn't be able to make it to a big wedding party. It felt wrong planning something and knowing that they all wouldn't be there. So we chose to get married, just the 2 of us and it was a beautiful day. I'm smiling just thinking about it.
We found Joseph, our officiant, through a search on the internet and the moment we chatted with him on the phone, we knew we had our guy. He wrote a beautiful ceremony. It was intense and perfect and meaningful. I remember seeing tweets asking us to tweet or instagram the ceremony... sorry guys, we took the time to be in ourselves and our relationship. It was nice being in our own little world for a while.
Joseph captured it perfectly:
"Erica and Robert, your marriage is the union of two people, two friends and two lovers striving to reach your own capacity to love, nurture, give and forgive. In marrying you share a confidence, a conviction to love, to laugh, to share, and to understand each other, and most of all, to become even more of yourselves in each other's presence. This is not just another relationship in your lives; it is the one that gives you courage, strength, support, and the where with all to reach out to other people in wholeness and in love. You are best friends who have fun together and enjoy sharing the profound and the trivial. You help each other live and learn while promoting growth that keeps the relationship viable. You work together in building your relationship and are comfortable with each other that period of silence are enjoyed because of the deep connection you have. You share similar interests, perceptions, and views of the world while respecting the individuality of each other knowing that you have your own interests and pursuits that are encouraged by each other. Each one of you, though different in outlook and experience, brings to the other the stability and centering each needs to become the person you envision."
Here are just a few of our favorite moments capture in pictures. There are so many we're having trouble deciding which prints we should order! Any thoughts?
"No human relation gives one possession in another-every two souls are absolutely different. In friendship or in love, the two side by side raise hands together to find what one cannot reach alone." -Khalil Gibran
"In your light I learn how to love.
In your beauty, how to make poems.
You dance inside my chest where no-one sees you,
but sometimes I do, and that sight becomes this art."